I met up with my old high-school friends this past weekend. I found myself to be the only one who was not married, and the only one who did not dress like a 'normal' 30-year-old would. We ended up talking about relationships and marriage, as well as the clothes we wear, and as usual, I was the one who had the inner urge to blurt out the question everyone is always dying to ask when it comes to the bigger questions in life: how does one know anything for sure? How does one know whether one is supposed to marry a high-school sweetheart? How does one know whether one should spend 50 euros on a H&M coat or 500 on a unique designer piece? I think it all comes down to quality, and quality is a state of mind more than anything.
I would often like to think that I don't actively value things. I hate making comparisons between things that never quite seem comparable at all. I prefer to think that I am impulsive, and go where ever life takes me, or what 'feels right'. But when it comes to important things in life, there is a process one must go through in order to achieve an illusion of certainty. Otherwise we just drift. There are times when life seems more meaninful if one stops for a little, to put in the effort to make sure that there are things that one actively wants or doesn't want.
The answer is, I think: we never know anything for sure, but it is not about luck either. We just have to judge our wants and needs, and then decide, and through dedication and inner strength we create meanings for ourselves. With carelessness comes bad judgement, with dedication, true quality. We should be able to ask for perfection. We should never settle for something that does not feel like the real thing. It really should be just as simple as that, because there is perfection out there.
When we make choices, the end results should be just as refined and perfect, both inside and out, as the seams of this YSL Rive Gauche blouse.