The interesting thing is that it turns out that the internet is full of snake necklaces, and they tend to be very inexpensive. Mine is old, unevenly tarnished, and a lot thicker than the ones that sell on eBay for a couple of dollars. If I had known that these types of necklaces were available in abundance, I would have probably settled for something less perfect, something cheap. The desire to get what you think you want immediately is at the heart of the success of the copycat highstreet franchise. Why save your pennies for years to buy a designer handbag, when you can get an imitation at Zara for $50? The same idea applies to those of us who have been trapped in the loop of buying tons of second hand clothes. I am sure I am not the only one who has been looking for the perfect circle skirt at the thrift store, only to end up buying five "nice" ones that I don't even wear.
Tuesday, 8 February 2011
The five-year wait
About five years ago I saw a woman in Finland wear a stunning bendable snake necklace. She told me she had bought hers in Switzerland, and since I had never seen anyone else wear anything like it, I figured that it must be a very unique design that just wasn't available anywhere. I didn't think to actively look for one either. I didn't know they were called snake necklaces, and I didn't think they really even existed.
Chris and I stopped by at a second hand store on Sunday, and there it was, in a jewelry case: the necklace I knew I had been waiting for for the past five years. It wasn't horribly expensive, so it just had to come home with me.
My experiences with the GAAD, as well as some solid realizations regarding the items of clothing I actually wear on a day-to-day basis, have made me even more critical of the fast pace of consumerism that I have felt uncomfortable with for a long time. It really is mindless to assume that we should have access to absolutely everything we might want right that moment. You lose your focus in the process. You no longer remember why you wanted something in the first place. Immediate gratification does that to you: one loses the ability to differentiate between genuine want and some random fickle.
It turns out that sometimes it is good to wait for the right one to come along. The want somehow matures, it becomes more genuine, it becomes something you can grasp. And once the focus of the want walks into the room, you can actually recognise it, and it makes your heart skip a beat.